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It Is Not Good For Man To Be Alone, Part 3

This is the third and final post in the series discussing the creation of Adam and God’s reparation of his aloneness. In this post I focus on two ways in which Eve specifically fulfills Adam’s aloneness as his suitable helper. You can also read Part 1, and Part 2. I hope this is a blessing and encouragement to you!

Sex

Perhaps the most obvious way that Eve was Adam’s perfect counterpart was in their complementary sexual natures. Men and women are intentionally designed in both mental and physical capacities to attract each other. (Prov. 5:18-19) The cause of physical attraction is deeply rooted in the sexual nature of men and women. This is why it is so easy to fall into both mental and physical sexual sin. Unlike drug or alcohol abuse, our desire for sex is completely natural. It is a part of us. It is something that God has made that is good and meant for enjoyment. But by God’s design, sexually-rooted desires and actions are intended only for faithful monogamous marriage where one husband cleaves to one wife. (1 Tim. 3:12; Proverbs 5:15-16) He holds her close both in his heart and in his physical and sexual desire for her. God’s perfect alleviation of Adam’s aloneness was engineered within a one-man-one-woman framework. Any other model is a perversion of God’s design. This is more clearly understood when we meditate on the implications of marriage as analogous to the Christ-Church relationship Paul talks about in Eph. 5:22-33. In a culture that flaunts its sexuality and increasingly disregards indiscretion by a false notion of freedom, this is challenging, but we must constantly preach to ourselves that the more we embrace and submit to God’s design in marriage and function in our proper roles, the richer and fuller our marriages will be.

Companionship

Another important function of Eve’s creation is companionship. By this I am referring more specifically to the human need to interact with other humans. Even the world recognizes the potentially drastic consequences of neglecting the important creation-rooted necessity of relationships. Throughout Scripture we see numerous examples of isolation from others as undesirable (Lev. 13:46, Num. 12:14-15), while friendship is a highly desired blessing. (1 Sam. 18:1-3; Prov. 17:17, 27:10; 1 Thess. 4:9; Rom. 12:10) In this sense, companionship extends beyond the context of marriage and into other types relationships where companionship also plays an important function by God’s good design. Throughout Proverbs, we see positive emphasis placed on the company and counsel of good friends (Prov. 11:14, Prov. 18:24) and the important influence we have on each other. This theme is repeatedly echoed throughout the New Testament in the context of the Church (Heb. 3:12; Heb. 13:9; John 13:35), emphasizing our spiritual need for human interaction. True friendship is a gift of God by design, because in loving one another we mimic the love of God, and in doing so we worship Him. To shun friendship or isolate ourselves is a perversion of God’s creation. God made Eve for Adam as his friend, one he could talk to and be encouraged by, one he could learn wisdom and kindness from. (Prov. 31:26) Through Christian friendship we set examples to each other. As a result we direct each other to the worship of God. Through open friendships we prevent our hearts from growing hard and cold. (Heb. 10:24-26) We should not underestimate the importance of friendships and the good influence they have on our families and friends. Companionship is a good thing created by God to fulfill our aloneness. May God soften our hearts and squash our fears in seeking friendship, a good thing from God.

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